I am SHE!

Excuse me.. Before you jump to any conclusion from the title that the post is about Sushmita Sen's newly launched platform about choosing Miss Universe participant from the country, it has nothing to do with it. Somehow for the contents that I am going to pour in the next few stanzas, I could not find a better caption. Also a warning for all the boys, the post can be really boring for you, as for the female gang, I am sure you would love to read this... :-) Still the boys can also give it a shot, if they are fond of reading or if they are a fan of my writings:-)

"Elegance" and "Charisma" are characteristics of a true woman, a subtle smile can win more hearts than a loud laughter, a shy twinkle in the eye can be more captivating than a candid eye contact, those tiny-miny shorts can look really hot & sexy but an elegant evening dress or a stylish sari can gather much more attention, a graceful walk can add a strong feminine factor to someone’s persona, the art of laying the table can fetch more appreciation than ways of handling a high profile board meeting, pampering at a spa, diamonds and handbags, long silky hair left unopened, high heels & perfectly pedicured feet, makes you feel "SHE". Have you ever wondered that where did you actually learnt these gestures that make you a WOMAN, that make you FEMININE.

Just go back in time and you would find the answer. While growing up you were always taught to be “prim & proper” when you went out to play, a birthday party, or a fancy dress, you were asked to "behave yourself" when there were guests at home, you were taught to be polite and nice, even in your all guys gang you were supposed to behave like a “girl”, it was you who got “barbies and soft toys” as birthday gifts:-) (makes me feel nostalgic). Unknowingly, you were being taught to grow up as a symbol of femininity, to grow up as a model of grace, to grow up to be a "perfect woman"...

I am sure my article might grab the attention of a lot of feminists who might not agree with my viewpoint and may blame me for representing women as demure, docile, weak and just an object of desire, so let me clarify I have no such intention, and being a young girl of the new millennium, I am all for a world full of independent and confident women. But there would always be things that makes a woman feel truly feminine, and the pleasure of being so, is all for herself to enjoy. After all, which girl does not like to look beautiful, feel beautiful, on the outside as well the inside. Though, femininity is something that a woman is born with, its there within her, in her heart, in her mind, in her body and in her soul. It’s something that makes a woman happy, confident, and lucky to be born as a woman:-) So, what’s the harm, if some women want to glorify their womanhood or polish their girlish charms by adding something external, which could be perfumes, flowers, dresses, heels, lipsticks, bangles, danglers and the list is endless… There are many for whom femininity is about being pampered by your man, being completely spoilt by your boyfriend, getting married, or for that matter experience the charms of motherhood...

A feminine woman can at the same time be a successful bureaucrat, a top notch CEO, an enthusiast sportsperson, so and so forth. These are just opposite faces of the same coin. Every dimension of being a woman are present in every girl, it depends on an individual that which of these dimensions are dominant. But, you may ask any woman, of any age group, all of them want to look, feel and be feminine. It is kind of inherent. And so is true with men, given an option any guy would want her girl to have the grace of talk, walk, attitude and persona. It’s the softness of "her" words that attract him more than her knowledge on "politics and economy". There are many women who might have enjoyed the thrill of being tom boyish, being in a rowdy gang of guys, doing all sorts of boyish stuff from climbing trees to playing video games, to go on treks and adventurous car rides, to get drunk and try being a chain smoker. But all that can never match the ecstasy of getting pampered at a spa, getting a sexy haircut, shopping endlessly for clothes and accessories, getting your make up done at a parlor, the thrill and excitement of wearing a sari for the first time in your life, the first time a guy holds your hand, the moment of entering your wedding hall, the feeling you got when you got into your bridal outfit…

I know of so many friends who had never even filed their nails in their teens, and now, in their 20's they want everything to be perfect from their hair to hands to feet. Every accessory they own is like a precious piece of gold for them, they wait for an occasion to dress up in a typical Indian outfit, they want every crease on their “much envied by others” black dress to be just right... (mind you I am talking of girls who have spent their quarter of their lives in ganjis and shorts). At some moment or other a girl's feminine side always comes out of the closet and makes her feel like a princess. "Naaz aur Nakhre" is what makes a woman feminine. "Sharam aur Haya" is what makes a “girl” transform into a “woman”. And the transformation can actually be the most beautiful and memorable phase of a girl’s life.

Femininity is something that makes you realize that you are the creator of life. So you deserve to feel and be special in your own right. Its when you value yourself, its when you feel lucky to have been born as a woman, its when your smile says more you’re your words, its when your walk adds to the elegance of your attire, its when you can be confident and demure at the same time, its when you change into a skirt from a business casual you become an all together different woman, its when you feel truly truly beautiful, its when you can make your partner feel like the luckiest man on earth by the thought of having you by his side...
Its when there comes a voice from your inner self that, I AM SHE:-)

So till I login again, feel feminine and smile your way to being a true woman from the inside and the outside...