AGE: Why do women fear growing up???

Hey friends, I am back, though after a long gap. But this time in box is something that women have always feared, the phobia of growing old. Go ahead with the read and I hope you would enjoy it.

An 11-year old is all eager and excited to get into teens and a 16-year old girl can’t wait to turn 18. Then, why is, that just a day before your 20th birthday you tell your age precisely to be nineteen. What is the big deal about crossing the thirty or the forty barrier? Why most women fear growing up? Why a sense of insecurity compels you to hide your age?

Age has always been an issue in our society especially with the fairer sex. It is sort of paradoxical that when we are young, we are too eager to grow up and after a stage the very act of asking a girl’s age is considered rude in a civilized society. But, why do we run from the reality? One needs to realize that age is a natural phenomenon and it is not limited to a mesh of numbers. It is about your thoughts, about how you perceive life and react to various situations. In simple words, age lies in the state of mind and beats of the heart.

We are living in an era where women have started coming out of the closets and they are becoming more open about issues that were earlier considered taboo. And, amongst all these, even age is becoming a casual attribute. Gone are the days, when age was the yardstick by which the world judged you. The new mantra is that “Don’t ask a woman’s salary!” contrary to the earlier saying which said, “Don’t ask a woman’s age!” Age discrimination has been a long existed concept. But today, there are also women who gracefully accept their age, no matter they are 35 or 45or even 60. Infact, the prime reason for many older women gaining lot of popularity in their workplace or society is that they are quite comfortable with disclosing their age. For some one who likes to learn about all the new gizmos and gadgets and pick a few words from the youthful lingo, age is not at all an issue.

You can easily match your steps with the younger generation provided you are truthful about your age as it helps you to be a more confident and smart. The elegance itself embraces your persona and eventually makes the younger lot look at you with a lot of respect and admiration. Also people who come across you like to emulate and learn from your experiences. It is actually sad to see people who are coy about their age. Learn to take pride in growing a year older. Life is an absolutely precious book and one must live its each chapter with equal enthusiasm and happiness. Don’t be ashamed or bothered just because you are on the verge of the 50 Th chapter of this book and your hair have started turning grey. No doubt, everyone is possessive about their looks, the flawless skin, the long and satin-silky hair, all of which are bound to lose their lusture as you turn old. But the trick is simple, if you are happy and proud about all those years you have lived through, your face and persona will glow with an undefinable vibrance and sheen. Even the wrinkles and lines of aging will add beauty to your appearance.

Hiding your age is a self-defeating concept. It reflects signs of weakness and a tarnished aura. It is all about how you choose to accept growing older that makes hell lot of a difference. In today’s times age is too short a word to describe someone as an individual or judge his/her capabilities and caliber.

You can be 50 and still be going around. You can be a mother of two and still be clad in that sexy black dress that you wore when you were eighteen.
You just need to remember that you define yourself by how you feel, what you do, how open minded you are towards changes in the society and not by how old you are. After all, you have worked hard enough to reach where you are. So just love and live proudly every minute of every year of your life. Despite hiding or lying about your age sing it out loud and clear and see how easily you can shut the gobs of those narrow minded people just by the confidence and dignity you hold in that number called age.

Flaunt your age till I login again:-)

Media - Growing beyond limits...

There has been a phenomenal progress of India into the age of modernization and liberal thinking. Advent of new technologies, foreign investments, or global partnerships in the field of IT and computers, every change has come with a big bang. And, amongst all this, there is one sector, which correlates all these developments on the world platform. It is the very influencing “Media”. The face of print as well electronic media has transformed into a form that appeals to every section of the society. With all these developments, the debate of print media versus electronic media is also stirring up. But, the fact is that newspapers have always had a mind of their own. Role of press in freedom struggle or the worst days of emergency cannot be forgotten at any cost. Print media was the voice of the nation when satellite TV and 24 hours news channels did not existed. Moreover, in practical terms, reach of newspapers and magazines is far beyond the TV.

We are living in an era, which is completely driven by media and advertising. There has been a drastic change in the news reporting techniques and “yellow” journalism has become the trick of the business. Media, in its new form has the power to “brain wash” people and put words into their mouths. One word or one statement can make or break the society. Media has to aim at larger social good. On its way to expansion, it has made some noticeable impacts on society.

# Media has played a constructive role in spreading awareness about various social issues. Women empowerment, social advertisements on AIDS awareness, family planning, educating the girl child, had it not been the boom in the television and advertising industry, we would not have moved a little above the base line.

# Media has become central to public life and politics. Media shapes public opinion, reports and interprets various political events.

# Media has successfully put India on the international map of popular nations. Today, India is looked upon as a country with extreme potential in almost all fields. It is also responsible for the economic growth of the nation, increase in international trade and development in financial institutions. Media itself is an industry with lot of potential.

# Credit of popularity of Indian fashion industry also goes to advertising and communication. It has helped a lot in attracting international buyers to invest in India. What more, today we have specialized studies in fashion journalism.

# Co-existence of so many brands of one product is possible due to the magic of advertisements, which is yet another indispensable part of media.

Unfortunately, in some cases it has also spread the wrong message of “End justifies the means”. Some of the negative impacts on the society are:

# India is a huge country with a population over 100 million. So there are enough news stories from a comrade of news channels that are being delivered right in our living rooms. But the reality is that in order to raise TRPs news channels are either reporting information more than required or the much important issues are being neglected. Gossips have become a trading trick and they are packaged in a way that undermines the reality and main stories.

# Only a fool would deny that hundreds of hours of exposure to visual and verbal images of human depravity will have negative effects on young developing minds. TV and movies are a prime source of inspiration when it comes to youth expressing themselves by acts of violence. There are many TV shows that depict family breakdown, single parent household, high divorce rates and unwedded mothers. Very little is being done to stop the vulgarity and sexual immorality in TV shows which can’t even be segregated with A or U certificates as in the case of movies.

# Advertising too has an impact on society, especially on values and lifestyle. It plays a major role in influencing social values and has become a kind of a social guide. It encourages extravagant expectations.

# Last but not the least, media influences our lifestyle too. The clothes we wear, the accessories we sport and the shoes we buy, every thing is influenced by the trends set by the media and fashion industry. Even when we go out to buy furniture to redecorate our interiors, e emulate what we see on television, or in fashion or lifestyle magazines. Every teenager wants to be with whatever is “in”, in order to be popular. The youth today wears “right” clothes, listen the “right” music, watches the “right” TV shows and movies and be at the “right” place to hang out. In doing all these “right & in” things individuality and innovation of our young minds is being lost. It is even increasing the gap between the rich and poor.

What is needed in the present scenario is media literacy. It involves correctly comprehending, interpreting and analyzing both print and electronic media. Wrong interpretations can create chaos in the society. Print and electronic media must work hand in hand to for the benefit of the society.

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Is 13 the new 18???

“A consumerist, urban animal living in a cocooned society that is busy eating McDonald’s burgers, freaking out with pals and chasing the original American dream of making it big.” I read this somewhere, and it made me think about a very predominant social change that is encompassing India, especially the metros. It is the way a child is being groomed and nurtured. It is the sheer loss of innocence in a child, at a much early age than it used to be say a decade ago.

This is what mirrors the modern youth. The young one’s today are like a rudderless ship without direction. They might have fastened their seat belts but they have nowhere to go. But the question here is that what is it that has changed the psychology of this new age teenager to this extent?

Over the past decade the country has gone through social, economical, technological and cultural changes. Some of them being favorable & some refutable. Change: you can love it or you can hate it, but you certainly can’t ignore it. And as they say, “Change is the only constant”. Change is a cause that has to be succeeded by an effect: good or bad. A culmination of various factors has been responsible for the change in the scenario of Indian society and shaping up of the new millennium 13- year old.

It is very much evident that there is a combination of factors that influence the average Indian teenager. And the influence has been profound on the psychological development of a child. Influence of the west and impact of the media have made such deep inroads in our society that they have shaken the very roots of our culture. Broadly there are 5 prominent reasons for the birth of all-new adolescents with a broader & bigger vision of life but at the same time a very materialistic and unhealthy generation of youth.

# Media in all its forms: TV, Internet, Lifestyle Magazines, Much hyped Page3 journalism, Advertising, Video games has been largely responsible. The Internet is the most essential component of new literacy with its endless library of resources. But the dangers inherent in this relatively uncontrolled ‘wired’ world are many and varied. A wise parent should aim at protecting children while allowing them to reap the rich benefits in a safe environment. TV has become one of the most popular medium of entertainment in every home. But certain programs may encourage irresponsible sexual behaviour. Instead TV should act as a powerful teacher imparting lessons on various issues. If a program talks about pre-marital sex it must talk about STDs and harms of teenage pregnancies. Furthermore the popularity of child reality shows distracts them from academics by luring them to instant fame.

# Improved Economic status of families: Since most families in metros have means, they over pamper their children financially and emotionally, making them fearless enough to do wrongs with courage.

# Peer pressure: This factor has always existed but in the recent times the competition has taken an ugly face where winning and to be “in” with the crowd is what all matters. Alcohol, drugs and sex, teens do it all under the influence of friends.

# Cultural and social changes: Indian society as a whole has gone through a renaissance of sorts. We are more candid about issues that were earlier considered taboo. Although it has made us more progressive but the mind of a 13- year old is not mature enough to take certain things in their stride. Influence of the west might have made us more contemporary and practical but it should be ensured that young children don’t get taken away by the ills of the west.

# Technological advancements: Increased crime, the craze to show off latest gizmos have all been the result of new scientific technology. We must ensure that technology should be used for betterment and not as a yardstick to measure who has the “coolest gadget” amongst adolescents.

The new generation has no role models to look up to. And the new age parent has no time to foster certain values in their children and they assuage the guilt by material gifts. Every one is too busy chasing a dream that will take them nowhere. Compassion and commitment have no meaning in today’s India.The new millennium teens have all that it takes to be a successful and  globalized Indian but what they lack is the direction in which their energies should be diverted in order to have a constructive and fruitful end for the individual as well the nation. But for this to happen the media will have to be socially responsible, parents need to spend time and nurture their children with love and proper guidance. Technology should land in the hands of who can make the best of it and peers should work together for the good of all. Youth is the most important resource of a nation and its overwhelming to see that our youth has high spirits, but parents, teachers and media needs to make sure that their spirits yield a beautiful and bright tomorrow for the country.

Live-in is "IN"...

Hi guys, here is a peice, dedicated to one of the most controversial issues our our times. The views here belong more to my reading of perceptions of people around and the changing Indian mindset.
The past decade has seen numerous changes in the Indian mindset and perceptions. Things that were considered taboo or too westernized are now becoming acceptable in the Indian context. And one such concept that has gained immense popularity in the past few years is the "Live in relationship". Though, at times it comes as a shocker that a society that was once averse to a bare minimum interaction between a couple who is engaged to get married, is now widening its horizons to accept various forms of relationships with open arms. The phenomenon of an open relationship, commitment without being legally called as man and wife is here, and it is here to stay. Even if the concept is found to be predominant in the metros and cosmopolitan cities, there are also those who move from small cities, try the option of moving in with their future life partners. As they say, men and women all over the world are same, so it is not surprising to see a trend that has already been popular in the US and UK find its way into India. "If you love someone, & you are committed, why do you need to get a legal marital certificate to live and be sexually involved with him/her", this is the argument you come across from most lovebirds now a days. But it is imperative to take stock of some very basic issues before you decide to take the plunge. Don’t "live in" just because it is "in". You are going to share your life with someone, and eventually, the whole thing will impact you mentally, emotionally and physically. Let’s first look at the reasons for this sudden trend of Live in relationships.

# Indians are now open to experimentation: Unlike the previous generation, the youth today is open to experimenting, be it career, relationships or sexuality. The entire woman's movement has made women more comfortable with expressing their sexuality and thus, they are open to test waters before they decide to get married. Issues that were considered taboo and shameful even to discuss about, are now being respectfully accepted. Though, unwedded mothers is still a concept that is not welcome in India, but a girl and boy in love staying under one roof is finding its way into the Indian home.

# Break up of joint family system: The joint family system is diminishing and the entire value system is changing. Youth living away from their "conservative" families have more space to express their freedom of thought. If the person loves someone, he/she wants to be entirely a part of their partner, and so the option of "living in" comes handy. Moreover, the present day youth has more freedom in terms of choosing their life partner, unlike the past when parents used to find a suitable match. The concept is changing and it is being happily accepted by many parents.

# Delaying marriage: There are various reasons for delaying marriage for many couples in love. Some feel the need to pursue higher studies, some have responsibilities to fulfill, before they take the marriage vows, so for them this concept of "marriage but no marriage" fits in perfectly. Move in together, live like man and wife without the extra baggage. It’s simple and yet gives you the option to start a life with your future partner as soon as you want to.

# Lacking belief in the institution of marriage: There are many who do not believe in the institution of marriage due to their past experience. It could be that come of them have seen their parents or siblings in unsuccessful marriages. Or some might have themselves had a bad marriage. Such people want to try out something different. Believe it or not, everyone needs a companion, it’s just that they choose a different way to pursue companionship. Also, there are many who move past the marriageable age. Someone in his 40s would seek a partner with different expectations, they may just move in together rather than going through the rituals and complexities of marriage. Some feel marriage kills the charm and passion of love. There is a "take it for granted" kind of a feeling. Couples also see a slight insecurity in a live in relation and believe that the insecurity will help them keep the fire alive.

I personally believe that sexuality and relationships have nothing to do with values, each one of us has a different value system, there is nothing right or wrong. It is completely an individual's choice to say 'I do" or not, to marry or to live in, to believe in pre/post marital sex. But before you decide to live in, make sure it is a well thought and well analyzed decision. Though, it may seem there is no responsibility involved, eventually there will be enormous responsibilities that you both would need to share. Be clear about your expectations from the relation. Even if you are not intensely emotional about each other in the beginning, eventually you would develop a strong affection, so "no strings" attached theory will not work for long. And of course, for all the women, make sure you have a heart to heart "child talk" before you two decide to move in. Because, you never know when the precautions don’t work. Be prepared about the consequences and how are you going to deal with them.

Nevertheless, the issue is still controversial, and everyone has there own take. Reader's inputs are welcome. Just few lines to add,

"Ishq mein kuch na munasib nahin hai,
zamaana toh nasaaz gaar karega,
par iss ishq ko dabaa de,
kisi ki itni zuraat nahin hai"

So till I login again Happy Living In:-)

Generation Gap: How well do you understand your teenager???

 

Hi guys, after the long and heated debate on the last post, I am back again with something really intersting.. Well first of all, it gives me immense pleasure and motivation to see my readers coming up with their varied viewpoints on the issues I write about.. So here is something which again could be "thought-provoking". The age old saga of "generation gap". Though I myself is a 20 something, but I think I can help you understand your teenager a little better.. :-) No it is not a Good Parenting Guide, I am not eligible to write a one:-D But just, my way of viewing the changes in the perceptions of kids who are a decade younger than me.

Parents, when their offspring sit on the fence between childhood and adolescents look back nostalgically on the days when their children had not learned to speak, were cute and hung on every word that their parents said. Suddenly, they try to become individuals in their own right and wish nothing but to fly above and beyond the protective wings of their parents. It is a common sight to see teenagers aged 13-17 discussing about the so-called “freedom”. The minute parents give them a curfew or object to their clothes or hair dos or do not allow them to go away for the weekend, “Generation gap” becomes the buzzword. Well, the beauty of this whole situation is that there has never been a time in history when parents and their children did not share such differences. These differences of opinion, account for what is known as “Generation Gap”.

Whether it’s trivial issues like the clothes in fashion, or something as crucial as considering various career options or seeing someone from the opposite sex, there has always been a difference in the way youngsters take things and the lines on which the older generation thinks. Parents often tend to forget that once they were teenagers too. Although as the basic norms of Indian society are changing, people are becoming more open-minded. Well, though the whole definition of being “open minded” or “broad minded” can call for another never ending debate. Leaving that debate for some other time, the fact remains that difference in opinion still exists. Issues like dating, live-in relationships, night outs, discussing issues relating sex are still debatable in most of the middle class and high middle class families. Parents may feel a little discarded, as “friends” and “boy/girl friends” become all important to their children. It is absolutely normal for a teenager to go through such a phase. This can be very hurtful for parents, but they should not take it personally. It is just a passing phase.

Parents have the “WE” concept. Youth often believes in the principles of independence, privacy and individual identity. They function more on the “I” concept. Parents have perspectives based on their upbringing in Asian home country, while the youth acquire their references from becoming “Americanized”. During teenage years, there are enormous attractions and distractions. The curious mind wants to try it all. From smoking to drinking to drugs to experimenting with their sexuality. They try anything and everything just to be “in” with the crowd. I am not generalizing but many of them do it just for this reason. At this point of time don’t play a dreadful dictator and alienate your children. Talk to them, communication is the key. Don’t pose yourself as their enemies. Lay down the ground rules right in the beginning.

Generation gap is not a new concept, it existed even when our parents were teenagers. By appropriate and effective measures this gap can be bridged. To interpret and understand the teenage or young mind is difficult but not impossible. If basic emotional bond blended with fluent and adequate communication does not exist between the youth and the older generation, conflict and tensions are bound to arise. To bridge this gap, listening should be given more importance than advising. To listen to viewpoints of youth and then to acknowledge them is vital. This is not very easy for an average parent, but every parent should at least give it a try.


# Become your children’s friend but not just to dig out their secrets. Be their friend in the true sense. When arguing over an issue, before taking any decision, put yourself at their position and analyze the feelings that your child is going through.

# Always remember that it’s not the quantity but the quality of time that you spend with your children, that matters. If your children do not spend much time with you, it does not mean they don’t love you.

# Most parents encourage their children when they achieve something. But don’t forget that your children need your support when they go through something traumatic. For instance, when your child is cheated by a friend, when he gets low grades in college or for that matter when he or she “breaks up” with his/her girlfriend or boyfriend.

# College going girls and boys want to stay out till odd hours of the night, parents must make them understand that if they want to party hard, they must also work hard. Parents must tell them that if they want to go for a night out they must at least inform them.

# Give your child some privacy and personal space. Don’t poke your nose in each of their matter. Don’t ask for details every time they get a call on their cell-phones. Be open to them and most importantly trust them.

# Treat your children with respect. Don’t “yell” at them all the time. Consider their advice when taking important decisions. Don’t decide for them, let them take their own decisions. Let them choose their careers according to their own wish and support their stands.

# At times, let your children make their own mistakes and learn from them. Don’t spoon feed them. Just remember that in this era of internet and exposure, a teenager is grown up enough to choose his or her friends. Let your children grow emotionally and mentally on their own. Don’t force your ideologies on them.

The communication part has to be mutual. The onus lies with the youngsters also. They should encourage their parents to ventilate their feelings and concerns by listening to them with empathy and concern. Showing sincerity and respect to older generation helps them understand the principles, ethics and philosophy of new generation. All this may sound a bit difficult but a healthy communication between generations is very much possible. Just remember how you made your first friend. Open your minds and hearts for each other.

Don’t forget that someday your "cute" babies grow up and when the time comes you must let them go and find their own destination in life. You cannot protect your children forever and if you try to do so they won’t thank you for this. It’s bitter but it is the truth.

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PS:I am anticipating some heated discussions on the post like the previous one..

It's still a man's world... Why?

This is something I strongly feel about, so here it is without much description or declarations... Read on...

There are absolutely, no second thoughts about the fact that the Indian woman has very successfully established herself in various fields and spheres of life. Today, she is working as a renowned politician, lawyer, doctor, poet, writer, painter, social worker, the list is endless. And noticeable is the fact that she has come out with flying colors in every role she has played. In every circumstance she has shown her worth. Then why is that men still dominate our society? Even today, in many families a girl’s aspirations are heartlessly put down by her own father, brother or husband.

Preference for boys in India has been a long-lived and shamefully a valued tradition with not many “even” trying to change it. Indian men have to realize and accept that a woman is as important to the world as themselves. This inequality is deep-rooted in every part of India. To broaden the social, political and cultural horizons of our nation, it is extremely important to grant the liberty to our women, which they rightfully deserve.

It is unfair, that most top positions in the society like company directors, CEOs, Managers, judges etc are predominantly occupied by men. Statistics prove that there is no difference between the quality of work done by men and women. Then, why this discrimination? In regard to women’s achievements we cannot afford to forget that the first test tube baby was successfully operated by a woman gynecologist.

An average Indian parent has always been very open-minded for their boys but when it comes to girl "the society" factor crops up. Though, most parents today provide equal education opportunities to their boys and girls but when it comes to going out to work, they are frequently discouraged and taught that family life is the sole motto of their existence. While making career choices, girls are usually not encouraged to take up engineering subjects or late night jobs which are believed to require great amount of physical strength. I wonder where does the so called concerned society lives when the same girl handles huge and heavy utensils while cooking and cleaning, carrying water for long distances in scorching heat or plough the fields in villages.

Most families, at least in rural areas, wishes to give the best to their boys. Amongst the urban starta, also the difference persists. The limits have to be there, but they should be same for both the sexes. If a boy is outspoken, friendly or mischievous, he is said to be an all rounder or candid, but if the girl is synonymous to any of these she is typecast as one with a loose character. If a boy wants to marry the girl of his choice he is said to be mature enough to make his own decisions. But, at the same time the girl is forced upon to marry the guy of her parent’s choice with the argument that parents know best for her secure and happy future. Again the question arises, why the man dominates?

Guru Nanak, conveys the strength of a woman very truthfully and aptly through the Sikh scripture:
“In a woman, man is conceived,
From a woman, he is born,
With a woman he is betrothed and married,
With a woman he contracts friendship.
Why denounce her, the one from even kings are born?
From a woman a woman is born,
None may exist a without a woman.”

Let the woman decide for herself, do and say what her own mind and heart believes in. It has been high time that women are given their rightful place in society.

# Education has to play a major role in this. To completely iron out the inequalities that persists in our society, education is very important. It is the best way to ensure sound and secure future generations.

# The key also lies in the hands of economic independence of women. If a woman is economically independent, then only she will be mentally strong to shun the discrimination against her and answer back to this male dominated society.

# Health of a woman is also of prime importance, because to take up any challenge one has to be physically and mentally fit.

# Women empowerment should happen in the true sense. Of late, it has been reduced to merely a topic for politicians to speak. Empowerment has to come from within. The women have to realize their worth and power themselves first before the society realizes it. We have to change the mentality of the society, while staying within the parameters of the society.

# Most importantly, the psyche of man has to be transformed. Girls have made many adjustments over the years. It is time for the boys to learn the meaning of the word “Adjust” and implement in their lives. Men have ruled for quite a long.  Women must now stop catering to the whims and fancies of the men as unpaid servants. Mothers need to teach their boys right from a very young age to treat women with respect. It is time when men start contributing equally in the domestic chores.

Complete empowerment of women lies in giving them complete freedom without any ifs and buts or social and moral obligations. There is a famous saying, “women hold up half of the sky”. So let them be free to spread their wings of humanity across the horizon of that sky.

Help empowering a friend, a sibling, a domestic help, a girl, a woman. Give them the smile they deserve for long till I login again :-)

Honour Killing: A heinous crime in the name of respect...

Till a few decades back, social evils like Sati, child marriage & dowry deaths were eating the foundation of Indian society like a termite. In new age India, a barbaric and atrocious form of crime called HONOUR KILLING is on the rise. Shamefully most of these killings are caste based, that makes it more than a crime, the worst form of social evil. It actually brings us to the conclusion that it may take several decades before India as a nation, as a society can become truly and practically progressive.

The recent case of murder of Delhi based journalist Nirupama Pathak by her own mother for falling in love with a boy from a lower caste is just one of the examples. If you flip across the newspapers of past few years, one might find it a regular activity especially in the northern states of UP, Bihar, Haryana and Punjab. Shockingly most of these killings are "socially" approved by the local authorities; therefore, there might be so many cases that just go unregistered as there is no one to file a complaint against the perpetrators. It is a harsh truth that the stigma of caste and creed still sticks to the Indian mindset; the caste hierarchy still dominates the very structure of our society. Moreover, it’s doubtful whether any form of education or awareness will help us to rise above such social issues. But the question is that, are these killings really for the honour or the ego, whether these are in the name of religion or in the name of just a community which is trying to prove its social dominance. No form of honour or religion teaches you to ruthlessly kill your very own children or propagate violence and murder of innocent people. It’s a matter of shame that in the world's largest democracy, a rightful and legal citizen of the country is still devoid of the privilege to exercise his/her fundamental rights.

The problem is grim and the statistics show it’s increasing by the day. So where and what exactly the solution is. Is it education, awareness, stringent laws, active policing, or innovative policies to support the vulnerable? Education, I really doubt will be able to do the needful, no sermons in the text of school and college books could teach us to stand against social evils. There has to be very different form of education, there is a need for “social” education which can be better imparted through advertisements, TV shows & films, street plays and most importantly bringing forth live examples. All these form of media have a big impact on the psyche of viewers especially those from lower and middle class. There needs to be laws specific to honour killings, and not to mention these laws need to be stringent, with fast court trials so that the perpetrators have something to stop them before they attempt such a heinous crime. There needs to be special organizations or "active" organizations and NGOs that can provide special support to those who fear such consequences for their decision, from their communities. Even with all such measures it will take time to remove this terrorized and inhumane crime labeled as the need of the society by some psychic people. We as the youth of the nation can join hands to introduce those living in the 19th century to the new India. The India that knows of only two kinds of people, the good and the bad. No caste no race no color no community.

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